If your child has stepped away from church and you feel worried, unsure, or afraid of saying the wrong thing — you’re not alone.

For many Christian moms, this season feels heavier than any other.

Your influence feels different.
Control is gone.
And fear can begin shaping how you show up —

This guide is not about finding the perfect words.
It’s about understanding what’s driving the words — and how fear can unintentionally create distance in the relationship you care about most.

Why what you think and believe underneath the words matters more than the words themselves

What to Say (and Not Say) When Your Child Leaves the Church

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When a Child Leaves the Church, These Fears Often Take Over

Many moms don’t say these fears out loud — but they feel them constantly.

  • A woman sitting at a kitchen table holding a steaming cup, looking out the window on a rainy day.

    "I failed as a Mom"

    When your child chooses a different path, it can feel like proof you got it wrong.
    You replay the past.
    You second‑guess your choices.
    You carry shame instead of peace.

  • A woman sits on a bed in a dimly lit bedroom, looking contemplative, while another person walks away in the background near a doorway.

    “I Don’t Know If My Child Will Be Okay”

    The future feels uncertain, and the worry is heavy. You wonder where their choices might lead — and whether you should be doing more.

  • Two women sitting across from each other at a dining table, looking at their phones, in a cozy living room with bookshelves and a window with curtains.

    "I’m Losing My Relationship With My Child"

    Conversations feel careful.
    Texts go unanswered.
    You’re never quite sure what’s safe to say anymore. The distance hurts — sometimes more than the disagreement itself.

Why These Fears Matter More Than the Words You Use

When fear is in the driver’s seat, it often shows up in conversations — even when your intentions are loving.

You may:

  • hesitate or overthink what to say

  • stay quiet just to keep the peace

  • feel pressure to fix, persuade, or protect

  • replay conversations afterward with guilt or regret

Not because you’re doing this wrong —
but because fear makes everything feel high‑stakes.

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What Helps Instead- This guide will help you understand why:

You don’t have to choose between your faith and your child.
You don’t have to control the outcome to stay connected.
And you don’t have to walk this season alone.

  • A woman with long blonde hair sitting on a rock in a grassy park reading a book, with trees and sunlight in the background.

    You haven’t failed as a mom — even if your child’s faith looks different than you hoped

  • A woman and a girl sitting on a sofa facing each other, smiling, with their heads tilted towards each other in a cozy home setting.

    A close, loving relationship is still possible — without pressure, panic, or pretending

  • Two women walking along a sandy beach near the water, one of them is talking and the other is listening.

    Your child can be okay, even when the path feels uncertain

Hi, I’m Sara

I am a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. I love and welcome all faiths and beliefs. I work with moms navigating one of the hardest seasons of parenting — when a child steps away from church and everything feels uncertain.

I help moms calm the fear, release the guilt, and stay grounded in love — so they can protect the relationship that matters most, even when beliefs differ.

This guide isn’t about fixing your child’s faith.
It’s about helping you feel steadier, clearer, and more at peace — so fear doesn’t take over.

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